So why do you suppose the mother pursued someone who offended her? There seem to be four reasons:
- A sense of saving face: She looks bad in the eyes of others, e.g. the public, family, or even in the eyes of the offender. She's been shamed. And she must now shame the other person.
- A sense of revenge: The other person wronged you. This wrong must be avenged.
- A sense of justice: Similar to revenge, but with a more cosmic sense. The offender did something wrong and the universe must right this wrong.
- A sense of enjoyment: Some people enjoy confrontations and fighting.
Enlightened people deescalate confrontations. This woman did the opposite. When someone acts the fool, why let them drag you down to their level? Rise above.